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Love has no boundries


Well! Iam being a girl born and bought up in a rural place in India. I've spent my 25 years of my life in that same old place; living, enjoying, accepting the rituals, and practiced the customs taught in my place. Marriage is considered a custom and a bond which is believed to have supernatural powers to lead our life ever happier.
If I ask a question "Do you really like your marriage ?
to the previous generation the most probable answer will be
"I don't know", I obeyed what my parents/family said.
Few can take bold steps to say "No I don't like it".
Believing the customs and rituals and to blend along the culture of my living place, I got into the time frame where I have to get married, blessed is our generation people, we have at least few rights to choose who we like. I have chosen my guy in my case,(Happily ever and a supernatural bond it is ! yes I agree).

Our customs are bit complicated, when a guy tie a knot to a girl, that saves his life, and if she takes off that mangal sutra from her neck by any chance, she is risking her husband life(I don't really understand how the boy lived so many years without a girl having the yellow rope tied by him)

Moving out of my place for work where I born was like, a freedom for me I met new people, new thoughts some cruel, some good-hearted, some kind, some wolves, some friendly, some help, some greedy, some jealous, some WIDE MINDED people. Moving out from the culture where I survived for years and years, was like new life to me. People i saw out my comfort space are really different, their thoughts differed right and wrong, good and bad, fun and excitement, savings and spendings. everything is different out in the world.
In my place and culture where i lived  the customs is that one woman should marry and live only for one man even if the runs away/ die. But a man can marry more than one and can remarry as soon as when the women he married die.

Days passed where remarriages for young window happened and being taken easily nowadays in India. But the same society not ready to accept if single old women and single old men move in and to live together. I don't understand whats wrong in that? If a woman in young age needs a partner to lead her life why not an old woman needs a partner to lead her rest of the life. If she is left all alone to live on her own, she deserves to have a partner.

Days changes the thoughts of people , let the change happen in this too ! 
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