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Grieving


Iam writing this with heavy heart ! Recently we lost one of our family friend. She was my husband's friend(Mr.A) wife. Just 3 days before we got a call from our mutual friend seeking the reliability of the information they saw in Facebook. It was very unexpected and all sudden that information was proven legit . 

We couldn't accept the fact that , she is no more . My heart become heavy and couldn't able to imagine how her husband and the young child gonna handle this loss.
Due to the shock Mr.A got hospitalised and under medication.

I grieved the whole day,
Imagining how much struggle she might have undergone before leaving the world. 
How much the soul might have suffered leaving her loved ones.
How this irreplaceable loss gonna take a toll on the child life ? 
Who is gonna feed the child now? How is he gonna fit himself into everyday without a mom? 
How Mr.A who gonna recover from the shock?

It's been 4 days still i can't get out of it.
On the other hand I happen to have a call with my college mate(Friend B) , this conversation had made my heart more heavier.

The guy she liked had passed away in an accident 6years before. she was about to marry that guy with both of their parents acceptance. When everything was sorted he met with an unfortunate accident . During that time we (friends) were occupied with new career and stuffs.
We sent our condolences to her and tried to console her , but she showed a quicker recovery than we expected (that's what we thought 6yrs before ). She moved on got married and have a baby now.
During our recent conversation, she said it is his death anniversary , and still she didn't finished agonising for the loss.

With family and everything she is doing her part as a whole. Though grieving for the lost soul is not bad but when it comes with the cost of disturbing her mental health is worrying me .
The shock she had has never been heard , the scream she wanted to do was never been given a chance.
The closure she looked for was not done .
The goodbye she said wasn't complete.

In these both incidents, after losing someone loved, it might have created a emptiness in their life .
As the days passes, the life changes but the emptiness never filled with your having a closure. 

Checking on someone who lost their loved ones will help them to grieve completely so that they can atleast overcome the anxiety and find a closure to move on with their lives.

I really pray that Mr.A and my friend B friend  find a closure for their lost soul , reclaim strength to proceed their life .


 

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