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Chapter - 3 Pregnancy is all about compromises and sacrifices

Covid-19 The Pandemic pregnancy 

As the title itself says this, pregnancy for women is all about compromises and sacrifice physically and mentally.

From a phase of girl/teen to a woman is a huge transformation for all the girls, where motherhood spices up a little bit more. Where consciously or unconsciously she always thinks about her baby.

Though there’s a lot of changes a woman endures physically after she finds herself pregnant, she has to make compromises mentally. As for me, it’s food “ TEA” fondly called “Indian Chai”.

Sometimes my husband makes fun of me that half of my blood may contain tea than RBC's & WBC's in it. Yes! I'm really happy to accept the fact that I like to have tea, however i believe am not an obsessed one. But I do have my own tea time for a day and I don’t wanna miss it. I love chai that much. Even in the middle of the night while I was sleeping, if you wake me up and ask if I would like to have a cup of chai I would say a BIG YES gladly.

But after I found out that I was pregnant I reduced my tea intake from two cups daily to half or one third. The major thing which struck me and craved me is this little cup of joy every morning and evening.

As much as I tried hard to bring my chai intake under control, everything has gone out of hands when the pandemic started in Japan. We realized the heat of the pandemic wave during Feb midweeks so I stopped my Japanese class(Which was supposed to complete by end of  March)  to stay safe and ended up with distress of leaving my plans in the middle of nowhere.


Tea gave me relief during my hard times, and so does it continue. All throughout the March and April, I happen to have 2 cups of Chai every day and some days it goes up-to to three when we end up fighting so badly. As the consoling weapon, my husband got in his hands to  make Chai for me.

This pandemic made us fall for its trap and got into the chai trap again.

During my 7th month of pregnancy Mid of may, my iron level had got reduced from 12.1 to 9.9 which really shocked me. and the friend of my mom who happens to be our hometown’s government nurse spoke to me and advised me to stop taking chai right immediately. Eventually, after hearing these words, I grieved in pain for losing my only fondness for “The Chai”. I felt guilty that I made compromises over my baby to have my liking. Honestly, that's the time I felt I became more into motherhood. I promised myself to stop taking tea just for the sake of my baby and to ensure that my baby gets sufficient nutrients.


Physically I haven’t concentrated much than doing a few physical exercises like walking and doing some yoga stretches.

Since we are living a nuclear family model in Japan I have to take care of all the household things despite feeling lazy and tired.

There are so many crazy comments as "its just only two of you, you have nothing big to do in household chores", Oh, Yeah! Come-over and look for yourself. We have to do things to keep food on our plates for every meal. Without doing laundry we can’t afford cleaner clothes, without going out to supermarkets my grocery shelves won’t get filled by itself.

And being pregnant and doing things for yourself is no joke. 

Oh, ladies, come on wake up, there is nothing in this world come free and easier.

We do have stuff to do from waking up till we go to bed, so don't poke your comments on other women, especially when a woman is pregnant and managing things on her own.

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