Chapter 2- You are not Alone in this !

Covid-19 The Pandemic pregnancy 

Many wonder why this woman is boasting about her pregnancy and makes a fuss about it as she is in the epic world war scenario.

Well , I feel I'm in one right now ! Poor or rich, working or being at home every woman's first pregnancy is so special for her and to her mom. Where the woman will experience and understands what her mother endured while she was pregnant with her.

Though i felt down sometimes and was brokenhearted about missing my mom and how unfortunate it is that she can't be together with me to take care of me.

Reality is that I am not alone in this,there are so many women's going through this traumatic situation fighting it either alone or without their loved ones by their side.

As days passed I vented out my grief on the social platform, which is the point I came to know how much a woman has the power to make and feel other women stronger.

After my few updates on how haunted iam in this pandemic & lock down and how much I miss being at my mom’s place. There were many messages filled in my inbox. Unexpected personal texts to support me, and to make me feel super stronger than before.

I wish to quote them here, 

She is the sister of my school friend who lives on the other side of the earth where I live now. It's been more than a decade. I have seen her. However after she came to know about how i feel being left out during my pregnancy she texted me in private with so much consoling and boosting messages. It gave me strength to get out of my anxious thoughts. Finally she said “You can do it” as we came through it and “if we can you too can” “ We are always there for you” this is what a woman to women things should be ! 

There was this other friend of mine who lives in Norway, we happen to know each other in a dorm we stayed while working. She was my next room mate, though we had a very less time to know each other, there were these beautiful times we looked out for each other now and then. We last met in person in 2012, it has been 8 years.Since then we were in touch with each other via a social network. As we Occasionally  text to know about each other's whereabouts and how about. As she came to know I'm being stressed about handling my pregnancy during this pandemic situation she stayed in touch with and was considerate enough to make  a long phone call just to make sure i feel OK. She shared her pregnant stories about her bad health conditions and how she coped with them ! How there were other women in Norway lifted her up and boosted her confidence to face all her rough days.

Very fortunate she came through all those hard times away from home in foreign land and she made it. At the end of conversation she said this “ With all pregnancy medical conditions handled alone while away from home i pulled it through !” 

“If i can for sure you can” Stay Strong! 

Facing your pregnancy alone will make you stronger than you were ever before!

And the next one she is the friend of mine in 10th std, as shifted to another school we lost contact however Facebook connected us after a decade, even after just pressing on that “Friends” button we actually didn't have any real conversation . After my long post about crazily treating myself to overcome my pregnancy cravings, she understood how desperate I am ! Lol , of course it was so obvious in my expressions. She privately messaged me to keep a company for me , surprisingly she is pregnant too . She currently lives in the US and the situation there now is really messed up. I got that! She filled my inbox with so much positivity. I was really surprised how we both lost contact being a kiddo girl now becoming mom and now how caring she is, to make me feel so calm & relaxed. And her words made me much stronger. She actually made me believe in the emoji Facebook has currently launched “We are in this together”. And finally all of her messages in a single line “ Let's face it “ Don't ever dare to lose hope and faith!

As I grew up, there was this constant stance repeatedly I used to hear, men are able to maintain their friendship for years and for decades but women can’t. Yes they can't because they shrink their world into just a few square-feet with 1LDK or 2LDK. But am no more ready to accept and ready to hear those cliches, we women are now looking out for each other. We definitely are, and we love lifting others from their adverse situations.Though we cant make time for ourselves but now everyone in one click away, “we are connected in one or other social medium”